Honoring Dad’s Last Wishes
Written by Sheryl Phillips on June 30, 2011
We lost my Dad December 2, 2011, to Multiple Myeloma.
We just found out the end of October that he had it.
He wanted to be cremated and his ashes scattered in the ocean. He fought about that quite often with my stepmother; she didn’t agree.
Unfortunately, he didn’t have a will at the time of his death.
Luckily, she agreed to have him cremated, and asked to keep his ashes through the holidays.
We agreed and asked to spread his ashes for his birthday in February.
She has since said she cannot do it.
I am having a very hard time dealing with the fact that my Dad sits in an urn on her mantle and it’s almost July. I have been searching for something that says what is proper etiquette when it comes to the honoring of a loved one’s wishes.
I feel he is being disrespected by sitting on a shelf like one of her clown figurines!
I know she’s hurting; we all are. I can’t voice my concerns because she never answers the phone.
And my brother says, “What’s the hurry, he’s not here anymore.”
Isn’t this an integrity thing? If you love someone, shouldn’t you honor their wishes?
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A Memorial Brick for a Special Mother
Written by Braiden on June 23, 2011
Those of you who visit the Five More Minutes With Web site with any regularity know that we occasionally run holiday contests. And during the contests, we offer nice prizes to entice the best submissions.
Ever wonder what a recent prize winner, Laurie Halladay, did with the $100 she won?
Here’s the lovely brick she had inscribed to her mother. It rests at the Cancer Support Community/Florida Suncoast, a non-profit organization providing free psychological and educational services for cancer patients and their loved ones.
Laurie’s brick in honor of her late mother
Like mother, like daughter, I would say.
Thanks for your good work, Laurie. Wonderful way to commemorate your loved one!
Laurie and the brick honoring her mother
