Our Story

The idea for FiveMoreMinutesWith.com came about over a bottle of wine and dinner at Café Campagne, a popular French bistro in Seattle’s bustling Pike Place Market. My husband, Spencer, and I were enjoying our meal, but the bottle of Meursault we sipped was making me a bit weepy and maudlin.

As we shared our days and the warm and welcoming ambience of the restaurant, all of a sudden I looked into Spencer’s eyes and said, “I would give just about anything to have five more minutes to talk to my mother. . .to tell her she was right about my Dad. . .to ask her why she was a compulsive hidden hoarder. . .and to tell her I love her one last time.”

Immediately, Spencer looked at me and said, “And I would give anything to hold Bo-Bo in my arms one last time.”

Bo-Bo was our darling part-Siamese/part calico cat with the most beautiful blue crossed eyes. He died in our arms on August 10, 2004, and we have never gotten over it (or gotten another companion animal). Every night when we have our first glass of wine, we clink our glasses two times in memory of Bo-Bo.

My mother died on August 13, 2005, and Spencer’s parents died that same year. So for quite some time, death and dying surrounded us.

From 2004 to 2006, Spencer and I were in the middle of traveling around the Northwest while researching and writing my seventh book, Pacific Northwest Wining & Dining. While the book was in production, and after it came out and I was doing publicity for it, I never really had the time or took the time to mourn such significant losses.

So I believe that FiveMoreMinutesWith.com is our attempt to say goodbye. . .to make up amends for. . .to bring closure to the deaths of our family’s dearly departed loved ones.

And I hope this inspirational tribute site will provide the same catharsis. . .the same cleansing. . .the same comfort to each and every one of you.

Pictured above from left to right:

Bo-Bo, Braiden and Spencer’s cat

Spencer’s grandparents, Arthur Colon and Minnie Jane Johnson

Braiden, Julia Looper Rex (Braiden’s mother), Brad Rex (Braiden’s brother), and Diamond, the family’s first of many pet cats.

Harry S. and Inez Looper, Julia Looper Rex’s parents, with baby Julie in their arms.

You can read more about Braiden Rex-Johnson here.

  • Positively delightful reading. You have captured me with these stories.

    Comment by Peter — March 26, 2010

  • Braiden – Your site allows for grieving loved ones to write last messages. It’s very beautiful that people feel they can share here. Thank you for sharing.
    Best VA

    Comment by Virginia — March 31, 2010

  • I was going to share your site on my widow’s blog and with other widow websites, but I’m amazed you don’t have a “With My Husband” category.

    Comment by Dianne — February 25, 2011

  • Sorry. . .I just added it. Nobody has written about a lost husband yet, which is pretty amazing. i mostly get mothers, it seems. Thanks for your comment.

    Comment by Braiden — February 27, 2011

  • what were you like in High School, that it was not so much fun. I struggle with going to my reunions, i have not gone since the 20th and that was 18 years ago. I considered myself popular and did all the sports but i really do not want to go back there. Maybe I do not like that person. But that person had a blast… was this you ? sorry this is off topic
    thanks, great site

    Comment by Mike — December 10, 2012

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